I spent most of my childhood in front of a mirror dancing. After hours in the studio trying to perfect everyday aspects of my technique it was easy to develop a love hate relationship with my body; the length of my legs, my extension, my arms, my neck. I could go on and on. There were days when it was great and there were days when I could not look at it. I was my own worst critique. This went on for years!
Then one day a friend of mine introduced me to mirror work. Sounds funny right? Here are a few affirmations just between you and your mirror.
Stop all criticism. Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
- Stop scaring yourself. Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure, (mine is yellow roses) and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
- Be gentle and kind and patient. Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really love.
- Be kind to your mind. Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change the thoughts.
- Praise yourself. Criticism breaks the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
- Support yourself. Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
- Be loving to your negatives. Acknowledge that they were created to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.
- Take care of your body. Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality?
- Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy?
Cherish and revere the temple you live in because loving your body only when its perfect is like loving your kids ONLY when they’re well-behaved.
By Teri Seier Moore